You are going to grow old. I realize, that at the age of 18, it seems too far off into nothingness, you hardly feel you need to be concerned with it.
Believe me - take it from an old timer, that 'old' thing, happens before you know it.
Do you remember grammar school? You remember how long it took for Christmas to come? Did you happen to notice how much faster years passed, the older you got? At the age of 22, anticipation just doesn't have the same edge it had when you were 6. Tell me, you've noticed that.
If the years pass faster at the age of 22, than it seemed when you were 6, what do you think it's going to be like when you're 40?
This little phenomena of seasons and years passing faster and faster, the older you get, keeps right on changing until it seems years are more like months. So at the age of 20, enjoy the fact that a year feels like a year, because that will pass too.
So now tell me - what do you want to be happening when you are 50 or 60 or even 70? Do you want a woman who gets disgusted with your looks and ailments, and leaves you for something better?
I'll tell you how to make sure that happens in your life. Dump a woman every 5 years or so and go get a younger one. Just keep doing that until the day, the shoe is on the other foot. Believe me, it will happen.
You want a woman who gets tired of taking care of you when your old, sick and drooling? Treat her like crap, today.
I know of old men, with 6 ex-wives and over a dozen grown kids and not a one of them wants to have anything to do with them now.
You see, it's just like a bank account - you get out of it only what you put in. Spend it all today and it won't be there tomorrow. What's the difference between the bank and human relations? Not much.
The answer, my friend, is investing in your future by keeping a good relationship with your wife. Your children will leave home. Your friends will be busy tending to their own problems. The young women don't want to spend their lives taking care of old men.
Your future world is what you make of it when your young. Work hard, keep time for your wife, love your wife and treat her right, save money to buy a home, take care of the things you have and don't waste it all. Be honest. Be worth loving. Your chances of having peace in your old age are much better.
You want to see it in action? Go visit the dumpy bars and see how many people in there are older men alone. If you don't think your wife is worth investing in, you are a fool.
And suppose your wife dies too early? Women flock to widowers and run from used meat. What I mean is this, a woman of 40 will be attracted to a widower but view an 'ex' as a 'has been'. They wonder why those ex-wives aren't still married to you. They are suspicious of you and with good reason.
Now I ask you - does it really hurt so bad to have to tell a woman where you've been all night? Does it really hurt so bad to go to your own home every night? Is it really such a big deal? Is it just a horrible thing to have to tell your wife that you love her? What's the problem with men who will marry and then decide he doesn't want the marriage?
Life is not the excitement of 'new', all the time. We have to grow up and face reality. One way or another, that reality will come home to roost.
I once handed $100 to an old man, sitting on the corner, after stopping to talk to him. He had married late in life, to a woman who died soon after they married. Guess who kicked him out of the home and sold it. Her kids. If you think you can settle your life late, you're wrong. Things will not go so easy.
Take care of your own business. Take care of your money. Take care of your wife. Raise your kids. Then you can look forward to peace in your old age. Don't be the fool.
Cherish your wife for what she is. She is your partner in 'life'. Every abuser, will get back what he dishes out. Be kind to those around you.
Listen to one who is now reaching old age and who has 4 ex's facing that lonely old age, because of their abuse. What they thought was so important, when they were young and strong, will come back to bite them. All I ever asked for was honesty and peace and all I ever got back was lying, cheating and abuse. You would wonder how I know so much? That's how.
I never ran out on my child and so today, she doesn't run out on me. She won't do the same for her father. You want to be that father? Just keep right on abusing your family.
I tell you these things to wake you up - to get you to think. Life is precious. Life is short. Life is not a candy store.
