What does it mean? In truth, it means I wish I could talk to you but I already know you don't care. Or worse, you care more about your own selfish feelings than you do about me.
Or even worse: I've already tried talking about this and already know you won't listen.
There is an old country song that rings so very true. Every tear drop, makes her love for you die a little more.
If you want rid of her fast, make her cry every day.
"What's wrong?"
"Nothing."
Sound familiar? Right now, I'm talking to that man who really wants to reach out, really wants a good relationship, really and truly cares what hurts her and is willing to listen.
Listen: means to keep your mouth shut, means to look her in the eye, means to not make stupid faces at every turn. Listening is done with the ears and the heart, not the mouth and attitude.
If she's been unsuccessful in talking openly with you, in the past, now is the time to assure her, you will listen with an open heart. I really do mean to say, "I will listen with an open heart. I won't interrupt. I will try to see it from your point of view."
Women are not just converted men. Women have a whole other set of values and concerns that men just don't get. If there's a problem between you, it's not time to try to be a woman, it's time to step over the line and try to view the world as a woman, long enough to say, "I see it now. I'm so sorry. I love you".
What's the big deal in saying those words? Why does it seem that some men take it to mean they are a woos?
Think of the gentle giant and be one. The bigger and stronger the man, the more impressive it is for him to be gentle and caring for those lesser than himself in strength and power. This is the man, that towers above the rest.
