Monday, February 8, 2010

Her Language. His language.

She says "I have nothing to wear" and means, I have nothing new that everybody hasn't already seen. Or it may mean she lost weight and feels she looks ridiculous in her old clothes.

He says, "I have nothing to wear" and means, all my clothes are in the hamper.

Same sentence. Right? Then how can there be such a difference in the meaning? Well, um...haven't you heard that girls are different from boys?  Oh, you thought that just meant physically.

You say, "Out with the boys" which could mean anything from a poker game to bar hopping. She says, "Out with the girls" which usually means lunch and window shopping. Either one can present its own problems but 'Out with the boys' could also involve a topless bar, which pretty much puts the 'boys' in a whole other category from the 'girls'. While the 'girls' concentrate on each other, the 'boys' could possibly be concentrating on other women. You can see the vast differences.

Just remember that when you're talking to the love of your life, you really have to be talking her language or you just might find yourself in trouble.

You, the man, have to be shown respect, while she, the woman, needs to be shown love. See any differences there? While you, the man, try showing respect to your wife, she gets the idea you just want her around to cook and clean. On the other hand, if she tries to show you love and not respect, you get the idea she's mothering you and not seeing you as a man. See how that works?  So stop treating her like you do your buddies. She's not your buddy. She's another species - a woman.

Showing your woman love is the same to her as respect. Her showing respect to you is the same as showing love. Remember that and you will save yourself hours of battles.

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