Just One Lie

When my granson was only about 8 years old, we used to go for walks through the cemetery. It was the biggest and oldest in the city, with lush grass and many trees and made for a pleasant walk.

We examined old tomb stones to put together of a life gone by. Finding a whole plot with several family members, some as young as 6 months old and all having died within days of each other, I presumed one of those virus's that wiped out whole communities. I discussed things like how fortunate we are today,with our modern medicine and how much easier life is today than it was for our great-great grand parents.

It was on one of these walks, I delved into another very serious discussion about trust. This was the day, I shared with my young grandson, what it means to lose someones trust in him. As I told him, "Tell me one lie, and I lose trust in you and you will spend the next 10 years, working to regain that trust. So don't ever lie to your loved ones. The pain on both sides is long lasting and deep."

He told his first lie, within that year and sure enough, lost my trust in him. The next time he came to me with something he wanted to do, I had to tell him that since I couldn't be there with him, he couldn't go because I no longer trusted him. I think it was something like a year later, that I was able to show faith in my grandson again. Needless to say, he was relieved.

So what's my point? Just because you're a grown up, doesn't mean you can't lose someone's trust in you. Tell just one lie and you've lost it. You don't know the value in having others have faith in you, until you've lost it. Why risk that?

If you lie to your significant other, don't expect to have her faith in you for a very, very long time. It's harder to regain, than to hold on to her trust. To not be trusted, is about the hardest thing for a body to face.

Don't believe me? Try it.